Dad received an MRI yesterday that confirmed what we already knew about his brain. His score stayed at a 5 today. He was much less responsive. He still withdraws from pain, but the nurses have to try a lot harder. The MRI showed more swelling in the left side & his eyes are starting to bruise again.
As I type this I can't believe I am talking about the same man who can single handedly pull a houseboat back to shore in the midst of a storm. The man who built a sports court, a huge deck, a club house with a swing, an extended garage for the boat, and who landscaped his beautiful yard on his own. The same man who broke his arm while breaking wood in a karate competition, yet still continued to break about 11 more & won. He then got a cast put on it & later sawed it off. Where there is a will there is a way for our dad. He is a fighter. The strongest man I know.
Us kids have a meeting with the doctors and trauma team tomorrow at 1p.m. Some are ready for this & others are not. It's only been 8 days since the accident & maybe dad needs more time, or maybe he is ready to go. Nobody can know for sure, but now would be a good time for him to punch the next nurse that pinches him (he would get a lot of points on the coma score for this!) They will show us the MRI scans & I'm sure scare us all to pieces & rid us of all hope. They will inform us of our choices at this point. Please pray for us to have clarity and peace within this meeting. It's important that we make decisions from a peaceful place rather than fear of an uncertain outcome or our speculations of what dad would want. Nobody can know this for certain except John Rona. At best, we would be guessing based on the human or ego side of our dad. I have a feeling his divine self is experiencing a completely different level of consciousness that we can not begin to understand.
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From Marty & Ilene & Family: Rona and extended family - our thoughts and prayers are with you as you learn about and make decisions regarding John. We love him. Marty & Ilene Abbinanti & Family
ReplyDeleteWhat difficult decisions you are all faced with. I am praying for you to hear the will of God. I know from the depths of my soul that the beauty and the certainty of Life is that it is eternal, no matter what our location is at any given moment. Peace be with you, dear friends. Remember your Heavenly Father's words, "Be still and know that I am God."
ReplyDeleteMarsha N.
This is where all his training and strenght will payoff, you can do it John
ReplyDeleteI am impressed with all the children of our brother John. Their thoughts and emotions are natural and understood. Please respect each others oppinions because they are all right and all based on your love for your father. Please respect each other and do your best to understand each others feelings. I know your father will always love you (his children) and will do all he can to comfort and love you no mater the decission. I agree it would be nice if he would react to the nurses or doctor Don. But if that does not happen - the decission was made when John chose to ride without a helmet. Kids (Summer, Cas, Shea, Summer and Edan) you are loved. please don't think you are alone. Call on the Lord, Neighbors family members for support. We are all here for you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that you are all going through this. I think of you and pray for you everyday! Much love, Michone
ReplyDeleteI'm wondering if you take the burdon off of you and let Heavenly Father make the decision. He loves you all so much and knows your hearts. He knows what is best and why.
ReplyDeleteD&C 6:36
Look unto me in every thought; doubt not, fear not.
My prayers are with you every day.
Love, Brande
I don't really know what to say except that I and my family having been praying for John and for you, his family. I've been reading the updates and my emotions go up and down as yours do. John was an amazing home teacher. He has blessed our home at least 3 times every month. Whether with the choir or as our home teacher, we have felt his testimony of Christ and his love for our family. He has brought little gifts for my girls on holidays and has always greeted us with a warm smile. I'm sure that all the members of the Dimple Dell Ward would love to hear him play just one more time. But that is not likely to happen. So we send our love and our prayers. May you find peace in your decision.
ReplyDeleteLove,
The Lassons
Grant, Ramona, Danika, & Faith
Dear Rona Family,
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers have been in your behalf, this last while, especially. My heart aches for you. These experience teach us so much about how fragile life truly is. It also teaches us how merciful, kind, and loving our Heavenly Father is.
I understand, in a different kind of way, what you are experiencing. I feel it would be dishonest to say I completely understand. I don't. But, from what I have experienced and the length of time I experienced it, I have learned more than I ever thought possible. Looking back at my own experience, I have questioned myself. I don't think that will ever change, as I'm sure you will come to understand. Ultimately, though, we can only find peace and reassurance in Heavenly Father. There truly is a POWER available in faith. I can't explain it, but I KNOW it to be true. It is difficult. Having faith doesn't make it any easier. It does, however, make it more peaceful. Heavenly Father is ultimately incharge. He has the answers you are seeking. Listen to your HEART. I will be forever thankful I listened to my heart... that is where Heavenly Father directs his answers.
Whichever path you choose for your father, I know without a doubt he is aware of your deep love for him. Either choice is going to be indescribably difficult. There are moments when sorrow will consume you... regardless of your choices. But, I promise you, you will be comforted and lifted in priceless ways, if you heed the voice of the Lord.
Know that we love you. My family speaks of your family often, always with love and respect. We are praying for you and your family. We are praying for your sweet daddy.
I hope and pray your meeting goes well. Don't let the doctors make decisions for you. Make sure, when you walk out of the meeting, your family has made their OWN decisions. Doctors are wonderful, but sometimes they are too eager to "help" a family decide. You'll do what's right. I have faith in you and your family.
God bless you all.
Your friend (and cousin),
Ashley Haws
(PS I'm Ruby Gourley's granddaughter... my dad is Steve).